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Do you know why you feel angry? You feel angry because of some weakness. When you want to do something but are not able to do it, then that incapability evokes anger in you.
When you are capable and powerful, why would you feel angry? You never get angry over an ant or a fly. You never get angry with someone or something inferior. We get angry at someone who is greater or mightier than us. We feel angry when we see or find something that is beyond our skills or capabilities. We get angry when we feel that someone does not obey what we say. Anger arises when we think that our words carry far more importance than us. So anger does cause pain when it arises.
Sometimes it becomes necessary to display some anger too. Anger used simply for display should be used as a weapon. So you get angry, but you remain calm and unshaken from within. With such (display of) anger, your blood pressure will not rise, you will not become shaky and heated up.
See, a mother often scolds her child over something or the other, but at the same time she smiles at her husband. Although today the scenario could be reverse as well (laughter). She may scold someone in anger, and smile cheerfully at someone else. But this anger does not trouble her, or give her a headache. It does not ruin her sleep. So being angry for the sake of display is alright.
Why do we do that? It is because sometimes people do not understand things by simple words, even if you explain the same thing 10 times. So then in the 11th instance, you need to show some anger to make them serious.
It is alright to be angry for the sake of someone else’s welfare, but not for your own selfish motives. That will only harm you. Getting angry because someone is insulting you only brings harm to you and no one else. Getting angry at someone in order to stop them from harm when they are deliberately walking into a ditch (meaning a wrong path or action) – that anger is actually beneficial.
Anger that is born of 'I, Me, or Mine' is the one that causes pain and frustration. When you realize that someone is being foolish in his ways and then you get angry (to correct them), then such anger is actually beneficial.
One kind of anger is that which is expressed with full awareness. The other kind is the one that is without awareness, and with ignorance.
So when you feel anger arising in you, just before that you can feel some sensations in your body, like a tingling sensation on the top of your head, or in the forehead or the back of your head; or you will feel some stiffness at the neck and shoulder region. Observing all those sensations at that very moment is a skill. When you become habitual of observing those sensations, then you can conquer anger very easily. This is why meditation is so important. Anger cannot be tamed by anything other than meditation.
When you are capable and powerful, why would you feel angry? You never get angry over an ant or a fly. You never get angry with someone or something inferior. We get angry at someone who is greater or mightier than us. We feel angry when we see or find something that is beyond our skills or capabilities. We get angry when we feel that someone does not obey what we say. Anger arises when we think that our words carry far more importance than us. So anger does cause pain when it arises.
Sometimes it becomes necessary to display some anger too. Anger used simply for display should be used as a weapon. So you get angry, but you remain calm and unshaken from within. With such (display of) anger, your blood pressure will not rise, you will not become shaky and heated up.
See, a mother often scolds her child over something or the other, but at the same time she smiles at her husband. Although today the scenario could be reverse as well (laughter). She may scold someone in anger, and smile cheerfully at someone else. But this anger does not trouble her, or give her a headache. It does not ruin her sleep. So being angry for the sake of display is alright.
Why do we do that? It is because sometimes people do not understand things by simple words, even if you explain the same thing 10 times. So then in the 11th instance, you need to show some anger to make them serious.
It is alright to be angry for the sake of someone else’s welfare, but not for your own selfish motives. That will only harm you. Getting angry because someone is insulting you only brings harm to you and no one else. Getting angry at someone in order to stop them from harm when they are deliberately walking into a ditch (meaning a wrong path or action) – that anger is actually beneficial.
Anger that is born of 'I, Me, or Mine' is the one that causes pain and frustration. When you realize that someone is being foolish in his ways and then you get angry (to correct them), then such anger is actually beneficial.
One kind of anger is that which is expressed with full awareness. The other kind is the one that is without awareness, and with ignorance.
So when you feel anger arising in you, just before that you can feel some sensations in your body, like a tingling sensation on the top of your head, or in the forehead or the back of your head; or you will feel some stiffness at the neck and shoulder region. Observing all those sensations at that very moment is a skill. When you become habitual of observing those sensations, then you can conquer anger very easily. This is why meditation is so important. Anger cannot be tamed by anything other than meditation.
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